Some people are naturally attracted to others. Everyone wants to be with them, their friend, and have them as part of their team.
Some people are not very successful in forming and maintaining relationships. They are often rejected when they make an attempt to connect, and don't understand why.
We tend to think that relationships are formed based on ineffable and mysterious chemistry.
There's a lot at play.
At their core, people's decisions about who to hang out with and whom to prioritize in their life are based on a visceral assessment of whether that person will be an asset or burden.
Human experience is challenging. Each individual has a heavy load to carry. People look for people who can lighten their burden, not those who increase it.
Listening is just as important as talking.
Most people prefer to hear compliments rather than complaints.
The people are frightened by those who highlight the ugly side of life, they passively await to be entertained and fed, and they drift about as mood-diminishing storm clouds.
People gravitate towards people who are beautiful (whether it is in their appearance, style, home, or art), have new knowledge, fresh fun, and can look at the positive side of things.
The brighter side of life is valued by those with a friendly face, a lot of humor and uplifting perspective.
People give and receive in every relationship. Everyone looks for people who are a net benefit, not a cost.
If you have trouble making connections, ask yourself "What can I add to the lives of others?" Instead of asking, "Why do people not like me?"
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