Podcast #1,056: The 80/80 Marriage — A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship

Many people enter marriage with the 50/50 mentality. The relationship should be split equally between tangible and intangible elements, such as childcare and chores, and intangible ones like effort and energy required to maintain the partnership.

Fairness is the main goal of the 50/50 relationship. This seems reasonable and rational.

My guest says that it actually undermines the happiness of relationships.

Nate Klemp, a former professor of philosophy, is the co-author with his wife of The 80/80 Marriage, a new model for a happier, stronger relationship. Nate Klemp, a former philosophy professor, is the co-author, along with his wife, of The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship. He explains how cognitive biases can skew the perception of what we do in a relationship. We also discuss how to divide household duties, determine the amount of time each spouse should spend with their parents, and set values to guide your relationship as you navigate through life changes.

Podcast Resources

AoM Article and Podcast on How to Hold a Weekly Marriage MeetingAoM: Towards a philosophy of household managementAoM: Beware of the Tit for Tat Trap

Nate Klemp is on Twitter

Website of 80/80 marriage websiteNate's siteNate on IG

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