Online Dating: Destroying a Man’s Confidence One Swipe at a Time

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Online dating is the modern way of meeting people. It's more of a fashion show, than a love tale. Men also suffer in silence when they don't receive enough likes for their latest selfie. It's not pretty, I tell you. I've heard some stories that have made me want to throw away my designer handbag out of frustration. Why? These poor men are being beaten to a pulp by the world of swipes and likes and DMs. They're also losing their most valuable asset: their confidence.

The 1,000-Swipe Saga

Imagine that you are a decent-looking guy, not necessarily a male supermodel, but certainly not unattractive. You sign up for Tinder in the hope of meeting a beautiful woman. You are polite, have a respectable career, and are genuinely seeking a relationship. You swipe...and swipe...and swipe some more. You finally find a match after about 1,000 swipes. You think, "Finally!" Wait, she doesn't respond to your message. Ghosted. You swiped 1,000 times to find a match and she won't go for coffee with you. Heartbreaking, darling. This is not a rare event; it has become the norm. It's a real problem, and has reached epidemic proportions.

Truthfully, young men are rejected at alarming rates. Each swipe that does not end in a match is another nail in their coffin. It's the same as attending a party and no one noticing your new outfit. Tragic.

Online dating: the confidence killer

Let's get real for a minute. Like women, men also crave attention and validation. Online dating rules can be cruel. It's so easy to reject someone with the app. Just a swipe of your thumb, and they are gone. No explanation is needed. Some women may be enamored with this new courtship game. But men find themselves licking their lips after every swipe.

You're at a luxury auction, where you bid on and bid again for your dream item. Imagine how frustrating it would be, dear! Apply that to attraction and love, and it's a recipe for disaster. Each unsuccessful date chips away at the belief that you're worth attention. Suddenly, your confidence is in ruins. No wonder men start to look for alternative options. What about this?

The Pineapple Solution

Let me introduce to you the Pineapple Theory. There's an easy way to meet people in Spain without using apps, filters, or algorithms. If you put an upside-down fruit in your shopping cart, you signal to other people that you are single and ready to meet new people. Yes, you heard me right. Grab a pineapple at your local supermarket and forget Tinder. Is there anything more amazing?

The old-fashioned "meet-cute" is back, when the universe conspires with two people to bring them together without technology. Imagine exchanging smiles with a handsome stranger in the fruit aisle and starting a conversation. It's natural, authentic and gives men the chance to gain confidence by interacting with real people. None of this ghosting and swipe nonsense. You're in a romantic film scene.

Other Confidence Boosting Alternatives

There are many other ways to boost your confidence and meet new people without using apps. You can take your dog on a stroll, for instance. Dogs are great icebreakers. They're